Monday, February 25, 2008

Odd ball or not

To take responsibility for my previous entry "Women women women", I am Mushroom. This Odd ball entry is about a one liner casual comment from my very WISE colleague. I say she is very wise because colleagues have commented that when you know this lady, you will truly know what is inner beauty or that beauty radiates from within.

The topic was on strange habits of frens and this wise lady commented, "Aiya, when you dun think he or she is an oddball, he or she will never be an oddball."

This sentence left a powerful impression.

Women women women

I have decided to break the silence by writing in a post to entertain the faithful but equally silent blog checkers. Another reason would also be the fact that I am on medical leave as I was suffering from severe diarr (I can sense the toilet beckoning me again). That aside, can be a different post so I better don't derail from 'Women Women Women".

On Sunday or Saturday, the papers did a 2 page full article on the trend that the Singapore woman has transformed into a unified group of over demanding species of their counterparts e.g. partners, boyfrens, potential bfs, husbands, whatever you call them. The Singapore woman secretly or explicitly EXPECTS the partner to pay for their dates, send them home, initiates special occasions celebrations, dresses up for special occasions, some even carry their female bags. This jolts a powerful memory of Joseph's jovial casual comment (I dare write his name cos he doesnt visit our precious blog. A subtle suan has just floated across) : A good deal means he will fetch you everywhere.

Together with the article, I have withdrawn into a period of reflecting. This is not a time for confession so I shall not comment whether I am the typical Singapore Woman but an old time fren (male) once commented that I am the rare non typical Singapore woman. I did mildly suspect whether that was a hint that he was interested in me cos he once said he was looking for a non typical Singapore woman. (see I include juicy details for my readers) Then again, a male who might be interested in the independent cum sometimes fragile new age woman in me might just be the new age lazy breed.

Back to the article, I guess the article is screaming that while it is sweet to have a gentleman at your beck and call, lets not throw appreciation out of the window. When you expect this and that, when he really does it, very likely, you will tell yourself : "okie lah, pass" and this will show all over your face. Second, while the gentlemenly gestures can be tell tale signs of something deeper, obsession in it might over shadow the other important factors of perseverance, faithfulness, honesty etc etc.

Lastly, let me share with you some secrets. As some male frens from past confide in me their BGR problems, when they shower you with gifts, woo you with flowers, confess the skies, their hearts are still not very much with that gal. Although the gal thinks that he must be really liking her a lot, he is secretly entertaining the thought of when he should opt out and go for another target. Or throughout the relationship, he did not fall in love with her.

So how ladies? Actually I also am lost, so just follow your heart and don't think so much when he has stopped paying for your shopping or stopped offering to carry your bags... Maybe I am also slightly influenced by my two old time buddies and my wise buddy at work. They are the type of women who will answer you, "Let my husband sleep. He is very tired. I can easily take taxi home." "Let him enjoy his session with his buddies. I can drive myself home." whenever you ask them "Hey why he never send you back?" Ironically, they are the same women who tells you that they are falling more in love with their husbands after marriage. Double irony, they are also the same women whose husbands bought them burberrys and LVs abroad. :P

Tuesday, February 12, 2008

One of my more enjoyable years...

hi all!
This Lunar New Year was a good one for me ....not sure about you guys...but somehow I enjoyed myself a lot more this year....

Somehow i can't put a finger to a reason for it...Could be because this is the 2nd straight year my brother is back for CNY visitation with us...could be because it was a straight 4 -day break...could be because I had a chance to see almost all of my other half's extended family this year....could be because i had visitations almost everday for the 1st 4 days....could be just because everybody was in a happy mood ;) *shrug*

Anyway, after hearing that about 1.5M singaporeans travelled out of Singapore this year over the festive period, I was wondering to myself if i would ever want to travel out of town during CNY...i guess the years of tradition of visiting almost every single relative's home has passed down to my generation really staying in Singapore during CNY is almost like an obvious thing to's something I am realy thankful for....and something that I definitely want my next generation to experience.....

For those of you who might not have the same privilege, i'm sure it's never too late to start a tradition in our future families :)

Saturday, February 02, 2008

Jay Jay Jay Yay

I guess I ran out of ideas at 1130pm of a less cheesy title. Jay chou is very talented and to indicate that I have not turned into a spirtitual "weong weong" (pastor dom's lingo) after 1 week of my 6 week tenet course (I dislike courses btw but I rather enjoy this one), I have decided to share with you Jay's new song called Rainbow. It is very nice with some tinge of saddness. I like Jay chou very much but I am not a crazy fan, just admired him from afar which means not spending money to buy albums but just enjoying his songs online or KTV or on the radio. I really think he is very talented although I am not very close to him to say whether or not he is a playboy etc ... I am just close enuff to say he is talented ...

Mushroom (nt trying to confuse you but the Mushrooms are back for CNY)